me: "even if i'm not biologically trans I still want to look like a girl and dress like a girl and have boobs and be named ginny and stuff. but I'm not actually trans so I was worried that ..."
my transfem therapist's facial expression: "girl, what the fuck are you even talking about right now"
(later I clarified these rules of course only apply to me; it would be transphobic to not accept anyone who sincerely believes they are trans as being trans. the facial expression became bewildered in addition to the frustrated confusion)
