forgot to post here that i only got scolded twice for being moody at people over the holidays
1) I was doing another team's work that got dropped on my lap and i said basically "i fixed this even though it's not my current or future responsibility, gl/hf"
2) random dude: "why don't you do X?" then does X without waiting for a response; i undid X and pointed out it's weird to ask questions you don't care about the answers to.
there is very little here i can accept as problematic on *my* end
